It has recently come to my attention that I am a pushy broad.

I’m a little pushy with people (of course a formal vote has not been taken on this), but I realized that I mostly push not against other people so much as against life itself. More accurately, I push against life constantly, incessantly…and life always wins.

You’d think after years of trying to make everything fit together, striving for perfection in all that I do and all that I am, I would become really good at being the designated controller of my universe. But it just ain’t so. Continue reading →

I remember being in college and reading about 2012. I was so nervous, so frightened about a time that was foretold to have a cloud of doom hanging over it according to so many predictions from peoples of the ancient worlds. The Mayan Calendar, the Kali Yuga cycle of the Hindu and Buddhist traditions, Nostradamus and ancient Egyptian prophesies all seem to say the same thing–if you’re hanging around in the year 2012, buckle your seat-belt, you’re in for the ride of your life.

I think they’re right. I think that we are in for just that–if we sit back and enjoy the ride.

The new year may seem a little nuts for some people, a little scary for others and yet for even a chosen few it might inspire awe and humility in the amazingness of life itself and her bounty. However, to the sane and the competent, this new year may feel like we are driving at warp speed ahead into life transitions and transformations that we may feel unprepared to handle because they are coming at us so fast. Some of these issues may leave us looking for the brakes on our own lives.

My advice to you: sit back, smile, and enjoy the ride as often as possible!

The idea of riding the wave is a feminine principle. The idea of creating a wave or in many cases of our lives, fighting against the wave, that is the masculine principle. So as often as you can, ride the wave. Don’t try to control the wave. Don’t try to make it bigger than it is or smaller than it is. If the spray hits you in the face, feel refreshed. If it takes you up and down and up again, smile and let it. This new year is about finding the enjoyment in every moment and the beauty in every situation. So don’t be afraid to do just that. Happy New Year to you!

I was asked to speak at an event this past weekend. Driving on the way there, Starbucks caffeinated beverage at the ready, I kept fidgeting with it, as if the beverage was going to somehow pump motivation into me for this speaking engagement. I looked out the window, sighed, and realized there was no, “Get Your Motor Running” vibe buzzing through me for the talk I was about to give. Alas, I found myself passionless to get out on the speaker’s highway.

Why did the Understanding Women woman, the queen of provoking passion, find herself with no wind in her sails? Very simply put, I was about to speak to a room full of old broads and I had no desire to have my work criticized. Yes, it’s true, I was judging & stereotyping old women everywhere. Mea Culpa.

My assistant did her best to give me a pep talk; she even went so far as to promise me a burger at the end of my talk (I really am such a guy when it comes to food. Promise me something I really want to eat, and I am putty in your hands). But alas, as I watched the room filling with women, most of whom I was pretty sure would point fingers of dismissal at me, I felt a false smile plant itself on my face while a vacuum of emptiness circled in my stomach…a vacuum I’m not even sure that a burger could have filled. Continue reading →